• After 30 years of marriage, an amicable divorce settlement allowed Jim and June to move on.

    Jim and June's StoryJim and June had been married for nearly thirty years when they both decided that their children were now grown up, and they were no longer in love. They faced separation and divorce with an assumption that conflict was somehow a necessary part of that process. They both had substantial assets, having a combined wealth of several million pounds, which was in various properties and stocks in several countries in the world. They both had differing views as to what a fair settlement should be, and their solicitors had recommended to them both that they should try mediation before embarking on the very expensive route of Court Hearings.

    On starting mediation they both expressed what they felt would be a fair settlement, and their mediator asked them both to explain to the other why they felt that their answer was fair, and what they felt was unfair about the others idea of settlement.

    In actual fact, once the assets had been looked at in detail it was apparent they both wanted certain things that were not necessarily in conflict with the other, and an outline for settlement was reached at the end of the second session of mediation.

    Both Jim and June sat with the mediator and established which assets would remain with each of them, and a session was spent compiling a detailed list showing this division, which formed part of the final Memorandum of Understanding, which was then sent to each party's solicitors, to enable them to obtain legal advice, prior to the final Consent Order being drawn up.

    Jim and June were pleasantly surprised that conflict had been avoided, and although they had initially anticipated that they would not agree, by taking things slowly and methodically, they actually realised that they disagreed about very little. Once this was established, the need to agree became more pressing, as they realised that they were very near to a final proposal that would be acceptable to them both, at a fraction of the cost of going to Court. They were also pleased that rather than being pitted against each other in a legal battle, that they had been able to sit down together and work things out fairly amicably.