There are so many reasons why mediation can help you
Here are just some of them...
Mediation causes less emotional wear and tear
For most people, divorce and separation is an emotionally traumatic and exhausting time. As mediation maintains a focus on each person’s needs and the future, the process offers a gentler way through this difficult time. Litigation can often exaggerate already explosive emotions, whereas mediation tends to help couples navigate this difficult transition without “fuelling the fire”. Many couples also resolve some of the issues that led to the breakdown of the relationship, for example improving poor communication.
Itís good for the children
Research shows that exposure to parental conflict rather than the divorce itself is the potential cause of harm to children. Mediation helps to protect and nurture the relationship between the parents as they proceed through the divorce process by encouraging respectful communication and cooperation. This is a key goal for parents because they are going to be in each other’s lives for the rest of their lives.
Save time and money
Mediation is generally completed within one to three months. Litigation is often three times longer, and the more bitter and entrenched cases can drag on for years. Mediation is also generally ten times cheaper than litigation, which is an adversarial process where the costs can escalate very quickly. In contrast, mediation saves a huge amount of time and money by encouraging co-operation and direct communication.
Mediation is effective
Mediation has a high success rate. Last year, Laceys Mediation achieved an 80% success rate in its cases. Most couples are able to resolve all or at least some of the substantive issues without going to court. Research shows that mediated agreements have higher compliance rates than court-ordered agreements, and that participants have higher levels of satisfaction with mediated agreements. Furthermore, parents are more likely to stay involved in their children’s lives after attending mediation.
Make the right decisions, in confidence
In mediation, couples maintain control of their decisions and create agreements that fit their particular circumstances instead of giving that power to a judge and having an arrangement imposed on them by a court. In addition, all negotiations are completely confidential and the contents of the Mediation Summary are protected by a confidentiality agreement that cannot be used as evidence in court.
The process encourages creativity and greater freedom
The mediation process encourages creativity to achieve a win\win solution that leaves the couple and their children better off, both financially and emotionally. Because mediation is not bound by the same jurisdictional and logistical restrictions of the courts, couples in mediation are free to consider and even experiment with a greater range of options and solutions.
You will gain lifelong skills through the sessions
Couples often learn new or improved communication skills in mediation, which will enhance their understanding of each other in the future and lead to greater cooperation. This is particularly important if they have children. In mediation sessions they learn positive conflict resolution skills tailored to their needs. These skills help parents negotiate the various issues that inevitably arise as their children grow up.
Itís a low-risk option
With mediation, couples are not giving up the right to go to court. If mediation fails they can still instruct solicitors to go to court. They are also not on your own in mediation, as the mediator will guide them through the issues, and, if needed, encourage them to get advice from a solicitor, financial consultant, accountant and other relevant professionals.