• Effective Parenting Communication After Divorce

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    1)  Learn to raise issues respectfully and without blaming.

    2)  Learn to respond to the other's concerns without defensiveness and argument.

    3)  Attack problems together - not each other. 'We have a problem.  I need your help'.

    4)  Avoid talking negatively about the other parent when the children are present: Children love both parents; Children need permission from a parent to have a good relationship with the other parent; When parents speak negatively about a parent to a child, or act disrespectfully to that parent, the child will pick up on that behaviour and attitude and act it out with the other parent; Help your child have love and respect for both parents.

    5)  Do not use the child as a confidante as it puts the child into a loyalty bind.

    6)  Do not ask the child to keep secrets from the other parent- this also creates a loyalty bind.

    7)  Do not agree with your child to keep a secret from the other parent as this undermines that parent's parenting role.

    • PUT HARD FEELINGS IN THE PAST
    • ESTABLISH A WORKING RELATIONSHIP
    • PUT THE CHILDREN FIRST
    • DISPLAY CONSTRUCTIVE NEGOTIATION SKILLS
    • CREATE A LEVEL PLAYING FIELD
    • COMMIT TO COMPLYING WITH TERMS OF ANY AGREEMENT

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